Yes, Adult Dating Disorder is a real syndrome. Look I haven't been on the market in...well, let's just say I was wearing bell bottoms and beads : ). So fast forward 30 some odd years and ten years after the passing of my husband. As much as I like my independence of recent years, I realized how alone, alone really is. So, I have decided to get back out there and find a little happiness for myself. My kids are grown and it's time to focus on me a bit.
Looking for a love connection mid life is not fun. So, after doing a bit of browsing and reading on the subject, I knew the dating scene of today was not going to be for me. OMG! It's scary out there! And then there's all the new things you have to consider when dating now days. The movie Fatal Attraction comes to mind : (.
I thought about cyber dating, which is synonymous with blind dating. A crap shoot in other words. I prefer WYSIWYG scenario. I like knowing what I'm dealing with. For me, all of this just looked like a long and painful journey I wasn't ready to take. The days of peace, love the one you're with and rock and roll are gone forever.
The thing is, I have loved in my lifetime and been loved. I am not in a hurry to deal with all those new butterfly in the stomach feelings, like a 20 year old. Been there, done that. I'm just looking for the right guy to take me on the rest of my journey here with meaning and hopefully a little fun, too.
I decided that going green was the best and safest path to take. Sometimes the best route traveled, is the one you're the most familiar with. And so, I decided to recycle. Get in touch with old friends and see if anyone is single now, as I am. Okay, yeah I'm saying old boyfriends ; ). There's much to be said for the ingenuity of the hippie generation.
And there's much to be said for old beaus that remember what strawberry hill taste like and recognizes the word bitchin' still has a place in the American vocabulary. So here I am back in the dating scene and I have to tell you I have ADD (adult dating disorder)!
Seems I'm not really good at this : ). I wish I could share with you all of the hilarious conversations and dating disasters so far ; ). There are new rules...and with older guys, come a few draw backs.... major baggage (collateral). Wow, I have to also admit I had a few illusions about it and maybe a fantasy or two that my knight and shinning armour would ride up and rescue me from the depths of singleness hell . Yeah, none of us look the same either. I just wasn't ready for all of this. But here I am a fish out of water looking for my soul mate in unfamiliar territory.
And worst of all. I've been told by my daughter that my kids will need tag numbers, descriptions of the date in question and a detailed map of where we are going so they can find my body should things go awry : ). She turned into her Grandmother the minute I started dating.
After only a few months...I'm beginning to think there is something to be said for the single life. But all in all there's even more to be said for the age of technology...a long distance relationship...dating with a cell phone, a glass of chardonnay and my feet up. I'm liking him best! : D.
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